1. Write everything down! Divorce is a stressful time for both partners. Your spouse might start throwing insults, threats, and any other negative experiences. Write these down, as well as a record of your spending, especially spending that goes toward the children or your spouse. This is helpful, because if the judge asks for evidence for a specific thing, you will have it with you.

2. Find a good family law attorney early on. It will be especially beneficial to find one who has worked with many divorcing fathers. Don't just rely on a family friend; instead, find one with a good reputation.

3. Remember to do what's best for your children. This is also a stressful time for your children. Be open and supportive with your children and explain to them what's going on and what will happen. Avoid just ranting on about how terrible your spouse is. Try to keep things even keel.

4. If you are still living in the same house as your soon to be divorced spouse, rent a P.O. box to keep any mail you would live private, private.

5. Keep everything organized, dated, and make copies. This is very important. Losing important information can cost you your divorce case.

6. When debating child custody, don't make it a personal battler of "I'm better than you" with your ex-spouse. Remember your children are getting caught up in the middle of this too. Don't try to lure your children with promises of money and extra love. Instead ask yourself who is really better for the children and are there other ways we can equal the visitation times. Also asking the children for their opinions (if they are old enough) could help settle the dispute.

Sources:

http://www.divorcesource.com/ds/fathersrights/child-custody-men-feel-cheated-558.shtml

https://fathers4kids.com/fathers-rights/a-divorce-checklist

https://www.thespruce.com/surviving-the-divorce-process-fathers-1270385